Opinion: Box Gaps

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Recently, Daily Life and Lip have written about the box gap. The box gap is a name given by the internet to the space high up between a woman’s thighs, directly underneath her “box”, if you will. The box gap can only be achieved by slender women, and in having internet tags and pages dedicated to it on social networking and blogging sites, it follows in the noble tradition of the clavicles and hip bones of yesteryear. It’s thinspo.

Thinspo (thinspiration) has a long and varied history on the internet. It’s occassionally banned for being harmful, but given it’s easy to generate, it invariably pops up again. It’s meant to “thinspire” women to get thin. It includes photos users take of themselves, photos they find on the internet of ordinary people, and photos of supermodels. It usually involves soft lighting, bare stomachs, and girls in underwear, leggings or short shorts. Recently fitspiration has entered the picture, “fitspiring” women to get fit.

People to focus on different body parts that are indicators of skinny-enoughness in thinspo pics, and they come in and out of fashion. Ribs were a big deal for a while. Clavicles that stick out are considered attractive, as are visible hip bones. Very thin legs that don’t touch at all came in and out of fashion. With the introduction of fitspo the line between healthy and unhealthy bodies depicted in the picture is blurred. But “x-spiration” is always unhealthy. Sites dedicated to comparing yourself to other women so that you can try to be as “good” are never going to be an excellent idea.

What’s unusual about the box gap is its gigantic, mostly male, Facebook following. While clavicles and hip bones on Facebook have only a few hundred followers and very limited facebook activity, the Box Gaps page has over 25,000 likes. Most active fans appear to be men, who leave hundreds of likes and approving comments on the soft porn photos the page admins post. Girls usually get their thinspo fix from tumblr, where people are already annoyed about Box Gaps on Facebook, when the tumblr community already knows it’s called “thigh gaps”. But the fans on Facebook have taken to “box gap”, and they’re not shy about expressing their enthusiasm.

For example this photo (NSFW) of a woman’s butt in see-through undies has a comment (“yummy”) from Wayne Sleath. Wayne looks like a family man from his cover photos, which feature children and a backyard. I’m not saying family men can’t love porn, but aren’t they worried that their friends or family or coworkers will see them commenting on 18-year-old ass? Wayne Sleath is friends with a Cheryl Sleath – is this his wife or sister? Would he want either of them knowing what kind of ass he enjoys on women too young for him?

Take another example: Brendand Pfitzner, who is a claims officer at BT Financial, who feels compelled to comment on a picture of a thong-clad butt where everyone can see what he does for a living and where. What about Darren Quinn, who is engaged to Chellemi Mante-Quinn (she’s already changed her name, apparently). Chellemi has two friends – Darren and his mother, Gwenda Quinn. She joined Facebook last month, and has posted only two photos of herself. Her English writing style seems freakishly similar to Darren’s. She lives in Batuan city, the Phillippines, where one of the local malls has close to 5000 check-ins. Yet, Chellemi seems not to have a single friend in quite a large city. I’m not saying a man who comments on ass pics on Facebook is making up a fiance. Oh wait I totally am.

Strangely, the Box Gaps admins insist that they are not a porn site, and that pornographic images posted on their wall will be banned immediately. Says Matt S Reidsta:

wtf that makes no sence…. ohh yeah send us pic of your bare asses and your box gaps… but DONT SEND ANY PORNOGRAPHIC IMAGES OR YOU’LL BE BANNED!

A valid point, Matt. But Maya Stotler steps in to clear up the confusion:

Bare ass isn’t porn. Porn is when you are doing sexual things to yourself or someone else. Girls in there panties in different then a pic of a chick getting finger banged or bent over a couch getting tag. teamed. Learn your shit. And don’t complain about box gaps, i love box gaps beyotch.

Ah, of course. If only I had learnt my shit, and realised that photos of barely-covered vulva aren’t pornographic. As you can tell from both comments, Box Gaps’ fans aren’t the most good at sentence-writing.

I can’t help but feel that the wide crossover appeal of box gaps makes them more dangerous than hips or collar bones. Thinspo blogs often cite motivations like wanting to feel confident when boys look. But the girls on these blogs would be hard pressed to find a website where boys are professing their love for a thin neck and slender ankles. Boys are on sites like Youporn and Brazzers, being all like “aw yeah tits bro”. The worlds don’t ever really collide. But there are thousands of guys publically loving box gaps, and insulting people who don’t have them. Girls with fragile self-esteem (so fragile they think idiots who comment on porn on Facebook have opinions worth caring about) are going to think that here is evidence that they have to look a certain way before they’re good enough.

If you’re a lady reading this worried about having a box gap, here is something I learnt back in Year 12, when I discussed the thigh gap (as it was then known), with a classmate: stick your butt out far enough and you’ll probably have one.

Now, if you’re a lady who doesn’t care about what 17-year-old me has to say, here is some advice from 23-year-old me: do not give a flying f*ck about box gaps.

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43 Comments

  • Reply dj23249 Saturday 30th March, 2013 at 5:55 am

    really

  • hausoftina
    Reply hausoftina Monday 19th November, 2012 at 6:07 am

    I much prefer using the word ‘thigh gap’ ;P

  • Trish_D
    Reply Trish_D Friday 9th November, 2012 at 6:41 pm

    OMG – words fail me – and that’s saying something!!!!

  • Reply Sabbyxox Thursday 8th November, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    ummm….

  • Reply KatP Thursday 25th October, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    haha this was something interesting to read. Love having a few different things here at BWA

  • Reply aalana Thursday 25th October, 2012 at 9:29 am

    ?

  • Reply shazam Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    ?? What on earth??

  • Reply angfashiondiva Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 3:14 pm

    Well you learn something new every day, amused that people post pictures of themselves like this, especially the ones including their face, funny and ‘educational’!

  • spunkx
    Reply spunkx Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    I really like your take on this subject, well written to a younger audience. Refreshing!

  • Reply jenniqua Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 11:16 am

    How is that not porn??????????????????????????? And the guys? what a bunch of wankers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • DearMonet
    Reply DearMonet Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 8:23 am

    Too funny! 🙂

  • Reply ben Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 12:36 am

    And while I’m at it… take a look at your front page. Every image is a wafer thin woman.

    In the words of a dead English guy “The lady doth protest too much, methinks”

  • Reply Ben Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 12:29 am

    “here is some advice from 23-year-old me: do not give a flying f*ck about box gaps.”

    /writes entire article on box gaps…

  • Reply ellenstewart Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 11:51 pm

    I love the sass of this article!!

  • Reply jessicawheelock Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    Ha ha what the hell. Love the photos…

  • newbie
    Reply newbie Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    LOL

  • Reply Sparkles17 Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 11:12 am

    Just weird!

  • Reply livi Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 10:02 am

    Being young myself, I am so happy to see your article! So many of my “friends” like this page and not knowing if it is just me being up tight, but it seems inappropriate. I am slender myself and have a “box gap” but I couldn’t think of anything worse then taking a photo of my ass and putting it up for guys to go have a good look and make comments over. What ever happened to self respect???

    • Reply Zerotolove Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 12:16 pm

      Good on you for having some self respect! Ignore your friends, they’re probably just liking the page to ‘look cool’… such a worry.

    • newbie
      Reply newbie Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      <3

      • Reply yslyenom Wednesday 24th October, 2012 at 11:39 pm

        More cringeworthy than cool.

  • Reply Whatthe Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 9:40 am

    urrr yucko I don’t think that’s attractive – someone else’s anus poking out at you. even if it is covered. foul mcgroul.

  • Reply amanda6393 Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 8:36 am

    Too bizarre.

  • Reply dj23249 Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 6:41 am

    Whatever ever your into, not a fan personally

  • Zoe93
    Reply Zoe93 Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 1:17 am

    okay…

  • lanalang
    Reply lanalang Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 12:08 am

    People are just foul these days, especially most men.

  • Reply punkemohardcore Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 11:25 pm

    box gap is not an attractive name, idk why yoou’d want one.

    • newbie
      Reply newbie Tuesday 23rd October, 2012 at 2:47 pm

      HAHA

  • Reply yslyenom Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 11:02 pm

    Just learnt 2 new words today – Box Gap.

  • Reply foxoduck Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    WEIrd!

  • Reply leckytomato Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 8:34 pm

    somehow i find the pictures funny once they put the box icon!

  • sommy7
    Reply sommy7 Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    Unusual-to say the least

  • Reply AmberB Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 8:13 pm

    Strange

  • hayley_shortie_22
    Reply hayley_shortie_22 Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 7:30 pm

    lol! go girl!

  • Reply MsKimo Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    What the actual hell. I don’t get this, it’s stupid, lol @ Wayne.

  • Reply T1NA Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 6:40 pm

    um disturbing

  • Jane Hollier
    Reply whatjanedid Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 3:35 pm

    I wonder if “Wayne” knows his “likes” will appear in the newsfeeds of his Facebook friends? (And I wonder if those other guys are aware their Facebook pages are showing a lot of personal deets to the public?) And poor Darren. It can’t be easy having a fabricated fiance. 😉

  • make up magic
    Reply make up magic Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    very strange

  • Reply BellaB Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    Bizarre.

  • Reply fifi73 Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    Hmmmm

  • Reply maggielyly Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 12:44 pm

    ….

  • Reply vikki18 Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 11:32 am

    cool

    • Reply yslyenom Monday 22nd October, 2012 at 10:55 pm

      Cool???

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