Getting engaged is one of the most exciting, yet stressful things you will ever do. Although it’s wonderful to be spending the rest of your life with the person you love, there’s going to be a few questions to consider before getting down on bended knee.
If you’re the one doing the proposing, then making decisions such as which ring to buy, or where to propose don’t get arrived at lightly. While you probably want the engagement itself to catch your beloved by surprise, from your perspective, the more organised you are the better.
With that in mind, here are 5 things to consider before popping the question.
#1 – Am I ready?
Sounds simple, but this question really is the first and foremost thing to consider at this point in time. Committing to someone for the rest of your life is a huge to step to take, and if you’re not 1000% sure you’re ready, it mightn’t be the right time for you or your partner.
If you have any niggling doubts, then take a bit longer to think about the decision. Observe not only how your interpersonal relationship plays out, but whether your goals and dreams stay aligned for the future.
#2 – Can I afford this?
The simple truth is, that getting engaged and married is expensive. Sure, you don’t need to splash every last cent on the most extravagant ring you can afford, but you will encounter expenses one way or another.
Generally, the wedding itself is spaced out far enough in advance so that you have time to save for your big day. But, depending on what kind of wedding you and your partner want, the timeline may be impractical to your available budget. For tips and tricks when it comes to saving for your wedding day, you can visit this site here.
#3 – Proposal location?
One of the trickiest decisions you’ll be faced with before you get engaged is where you are going to propose! Although you probably have a number of romantic ideas, you need to be sure you are putting your partner’s wishes first. (Trust us on this one).
If you’re not a million percent they’re going to like your concept, don’t do it. For guidance when it comes to choosing the best place to propose, you can visit this handy guide.
#4 – The ring?!
difficult mind-bendingly stressful choice when it comes to getting engaged is choosing where you’re going to buy the ring. You may have a girlfriend who has made her wants and desires SO clear that you could never go wrong with what to do. Or, you could be flying blind with no idea of what you should be looking for.
With so many engagement rings to choose from, you’ll be swamped for choice at a range of different price points. Pay close attention the kind of jewellery she already wears (is it modern? antique? minimal? extravagant? and use this as your starting point.) Perhaps canvas her closest friends for ideas, if you think they can keep a secret.
#5 – Thinking ahead: the wedding
Finally, you need to think about whether or not you’re going to be starting your wedding planning right away. As above, finances may affect whether you start planning now or later. Ideally, start thinking about all the elements you need to account for and plan around, and see where it fits into your budget and life in general.
Then, create a list that you can work your way through. From deciding a date to choosing a venue, it’s often a good idea to get a few basics locked in during the early days if you can.